5 reasons to get famous before you have kids

So you want to be famous? Who doesn't? I may not be famous myself, but as a former journalist, a working actor and a podcaster, I have met and interviewed my share of famous people. .And like you, I have seen countless success and failure stories when it comes to fame and family in the headlines. So, here's my take on why you should hurry and get famous, if you're going to do so, before having kids.

1. You like celebrating alone

For a rare few, fame may happen literally overnight. For most of us, though, climbing to the top will involve a lot of little victories and stepping stones along the way. If you like to sit alone in a fancy hotel room, celebrating another big win with a solo glass of champagne, getting famous pre-kids is definitely for you. Who needs that stranglehold of chubby little arms around your neck hugging you and sticky little lips kissing you and saying how proud they are you? Yuck. Having a mini-me idolize you and make your accomplishment feel 10x bigger? No thanks.

2. It's easier without the extra responsibility

   
   

   Sure, doing the hard climb to be famous without kids is easier. And easier is always better, right? Binging Netflix on a Saturday afternoon is waaay easier than getting dressed, driving across town and going to brunch with your favorite ladies. So obviously, Netflix is a better use of time, right? Right! Good for you! Enjoy that 20th episode of your favorite true crime show while your Vitamin D levels plummet.

3. There won't be time when you have kids

Time is already so scarce, why try to squeeze more responsibility into the ever-tightening chasm? After all, getting famous is a full time job. And so is raising kids. There's no time for getting famous while also raising kids and that's a fact. Except... doesn't having kids mean you have to wake up on time? Doesn't it force you into a rhythm and a schedule? And doesn't the lack of time actually force you to be way more intentional and focused when you do choose to go after what you want? And don't we all have the same 24 hours in a day?? Nah, it's probably just easier to think time will magically evaporate when kids show up. And as we learned above, easier is always better.

4. Kids are a distraction

It's so nice to be alone with our spiraling thoughts day in and day out, am I right? It's great for the creative process, too. None of those joyful giggles to burst into all the important worries and To-Do's we have swirling around up there. None of those odd curiosities to pull us off course. After all, how could living a full life and enjoying yourself benefit a creative life? Isn't it better to just focus, focus, focus until we force fame and success into submission? Totally. That feels right.

5. I like the excuses I have now

   
   

   Sure, kids can be a great excuse as to why we're not pursuing the life we want. But it would also be a new excuse, and that's scary. Why not just stick to the cozy, old excuses we used on a daily basis like "I don't have time" or "it's too hard" or "I don't have the connections, or money or whatever else I need to get where I want to go." Yeah, stick to what you know. I like that. That feels nice.

OK, OK. I'm being a little cheeky here, but I write all this to say, whether you have kids or not, your dreams are your own. There will always be excuses and distractions, it will always be hard, you will never know exactly how to get there and there will never be enough time. If fame is something you want, or anything for that matter, I am giving you permission right now to go get it. Whether you have kids, whether you are waiting to have kids, or whether kids are not even the issue, you have everything you need to create the life you want right now. It may take months or years or even the rest of your life. Who cares? What else are you going to do with the precious time you have? Simply ask "how" at every step of the way, wait for inspiration and take another step. Oh! And don't forget to have fun getting famous - with or without kids.